Have you ever made a list of what you wanted your life to look like? Be honest and don’t worry about being selfish. Have you ever written down all of the dreams and goals you wanted to achieve in life? Most people certainly have goals and dreams but few ever take the time to actually write them down. I assume the reason so few write them down is because they are subconsciously aware they will have to actually do something about it once it’s on paper. Writing a goal or dream on paper removes the ability to gloss over it as if it doesn’t exist.
Before making my recent career change, I was living a life full of choices that were no longer aligning with my current value system as a husband and father. Being gone from home almost 40% of the year was no longer something I wanted as part of my life. When I began to prepare to launch into my career off the road, I did two very important things concerning goals.
1. I wrote a description of what my current life was like.
2. I wrote a description of what I wanted my life to be.
This was very important because it gave me a visual image of where I was headed and what would have to change if I was going to achieve what I wanted.
Now that I have been off the road for two years, I am able to look back and check off the items on my list of wants as they become a reality. Below is a short list of a few of the items I wrote on my “want” list:
• Regular date nights with my wife
• Teach a Sunday School class on a regular basis
• Have consistent daddy/daughter date nights with both of my daughters
• Develop a mentor relationship with someone wanting to grow in their faith
All of these items have something in common. They all require consistency. That is something I was lacking in my former career. If I was going to realize these goals and dreams, I knew I would need to make a change.
That’s when it became very clear to me. I realized I had been complicating so many things in life when in reality it was all very simple. It ultimately came down to choices.
I know every situation is different, but the point still remains. In most circumstances, we have the power to make a change by simply making a different choice than we usually make. My choice was simple. If I wanted to have more consistency in my life, I had to come off the road.
That is my challenge to you as you look at your own life and reflect on whether you are living Plan B or choosing to live your dreams. You only get one life and there are no rewind buttons. Create a list of your current life and compare it to what you want instead. Begin to put a plan in place to bridge the gap between what you have settled for and what you long for.
Change can only take place if you are willing to take a step. That’s all it takes. One step!